Things you’re gonna love about being a girl.
I’ve been there too. You’re scared, closeted (or newly out) and HRT seems like an ominous mountain in front of you. Transition is an impossible dream, right? No – it’s gonna happen to you.
You are transgender. And it’s okay. You’re going to transition. And that’s okay too. It’s going to be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done, and you’re gonna spend a lot of time crying those eyes out.
But babe, there’s a lot of unbelievable miracles ahead of you too! I’m 14 months in, so I’m personally discovering the wonders of the second year, but check it out.
Here’s just a few of the things to look forward to in your freshman year:
You’re not gonna a smell like a guy anymore. It’ll happen a few months in, and you’re gonna love it. You know that slightly sweet girl smell? Yeah bitch, you’re gonna smell like that by the end of the first year.
This is gonna open up a world of girl friendship you never knew existed. You’ll find women are suddenly more relaxed around you, and willing to share things you would have never imagined before. And if you’re a positive and cheery person, you’ll find that most women irl are excited to be your friend (contrary to the hate patrol on le internet).
You’re gonna look like a younger guy for a bit (yay) and then you’re gonna begin looking undeniably feminine, and then (maybe even by the end of the first year) the male fails may start where you have trouble passing for a guy even when you want to.
You will start to grow your own hips and boobs, even if they’re small ones. They will be everything you ever dreamed and more. Believe it or not, after a year you won’t even think about them that much, they’re just kinda there.
Strangers are gonna smile at you in crowds and start being nice to you for no apparent reason. Life isn’t fair, and hard and scary men tend to get avoided. When you’re cute people smile at you and are nice to you. It’s just the way that society is, and you might as well enjoy it cause female privilege certainly has enough downsides.
Women complain sometimes but the female bathrooms are usually an order of magnitude nicer and cleaner than male ones.
Wearing makeup in public feels wonderful, and one day another woman will even compliment you on it! ??
So my update from here …
I just passed month 20 on H.R.T. and today is day 93 post Vaginoplasty and yes it does keep getting better ….. Its taken a while but I finally have what seems like one thousand places I had to contact to officially change my name and gender marker done and I am finally legally officially female and my name is now legally Alicia Jane Ryder. Even writing those words feels liberating.
I still have facial surgery and of course boobs to think about but I’m going to keep going until I’m comfortable with my look. Tell me what you think and what your experiences are.
I am now past month 32 after Vaginoplasty and had Labiaplasty 3 months ago, just to make my Vagina look a little nicer. In November I am having Breast Augmentation, Lip Lift and Lip Augmentation.
February 24th 2021
We lived through 2020, that should be enough ….
Its been 103 days since Breast and lip augmentation and upper lip lift, 57 days until I have the rest of my face worked on, all bone work. My forehead is going to be ground down a bunch, new nose with a ski slope … new cheeks and a smaller chin. A mid face lift and that part is done. I am counting the days! Scottsdale here I come. Dr. Toby Meltzer has done all my work so far and will do all my work in the future. He is an amazing surgeon, an artist, a genus and one of the kindest people I have ever met. Something I never mentioned, I don’t feel pain like other people do. Some weird quark of my crazy DNA maybe so all these surgeries are just a little inconvenience really.
June 15th 2021
Surgery in Scottsdale went great. It took a month for the swelling and bruising to go away and it will be a few more months till my nose has its final shape but I love the results so far. Its so awesome I get to do this, to be in a financial position and have the ability to complete everything.
November 10th is my target date for my lower face and neck. Remove fat and wrinkles and my face will be just about complete. I feel 30 I just want to look the way I feel.
I am lucky enough to have the finest surgeon in the country doing everything. Dr. Toby Meltzer of the Meltzer Clinic Scottsdale Arizona and Portland Oregon. He is the surgeon to the stars!
It does keep getting better! Life is amazing and the one thing I can say is Never Give Up!. It took me years and 2 failed attempts to transition but this time (third time’s the charm”) is for real. If you ever feel like it will never happen, remember life is actually very long and if you have to wait a year or two its nothing compared to the 20, 30, 40 or 50 years you will get on the other side. Its totally worth the time invested!
My November surgery went great and I’m back to work. Counting down the days (15 weeks as of today December 22nd 2021) till Liposuction and Brazilian Butt Lift. This one is going to be awesome! I really can’t wait for it. After that is just minor procedures like under my eyes and a little tweaking under my nose.
Well today is June 23rd 2022 .. All surgeries are done .. 7 sessions in all. Just under 3 years ..
5 trips to Scottsdale Arizona. 2 surgeries done here in Portland Oregon. My surgeon throughout the entire process was The best in the country. Dr. Toby Meltzer is a genus and an artist, one could say a god who sculpts in flesh and bone. If you look at my pictures you may not guess my age is now 69. I feel like the clock got turned back 30 years. People treat me different both as a woman and a younger one at that. I love every minute of it. Even with wearing my wedding ring I am actually hit upon. Go figure right. Its like magic. I can’t believe I got to do all this. Someone else I must tell you about Dr. Alexis Ungerer. She is the angel who helped me through every step of the process. She is much more than a psychologist. She accompanied me to Scottsdale Arizona for my surgeries. She took care of me when I returned to the condo each time. I am the luckiest girl on the earth. I have had the best possible care. Besides Alexis I also want to thank Dr. Alexys Hillman MD. She also joined us in Scottsdale in the condo. Think about this .. when having surgery and retuning to the condo after surgery I was living with a psychologist and a medical doctor. If I was a billionaire I couldn’t have had better care. The finest surgeon in the country doing my surgery and a psychologist and medical doctor taking care of me after surgery.
If you decide to have the surgeries I would be happy to help. I feel I want to give back for all the love an support I received.
I hope you are as lucky as I am when you transition!
I Love My Life Now!
Thanks
Alicia Jane
Alicia Jane Ryder 